Welcome to my third blog!

My mission is to help you to feel more internally aligned and live with joy and ease!

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I missed posting a blog for the last 2-3 weeks mainly because of the school holidays! We have been so busy. The weather has been amazing and we have spent so much time outdoors, the children running wild, it has been lovely to see. I kept reminding myself to be grateful and be present, but I had this voice in my head saying “you should be doing work”, “you are terrible at running your own business!”.

It made me think of a story I heard recently ….

Once upon a time…

A grandfather was talking to his grandson about how he felt.

He said “I feel as if I have two wolves fighting in my heart. One is the vengeful, angry, violent one. The other wolf is the loving, compassionate one”

The grandson asked him, “Which wolf will win the fight in your heart?”

The grandfather answered: “The one I feed.”

I have become so aware over the last few years of the two voices in my head - the negative one that says “You will never be successful” and “People will judge you, don’t do it” and has held me back in my life and the positive one that said “Start believing in yourself, you can do this!” and “It will be fine, it will all work out”.

I realised that for most of my life I have been listening almost exclusively to the negative voice. This has held me back in my life in various areas and actually made me quite fearful of moving forward. When I started to ignore that voice (and recently even gave it a name after a coaching session, so it is now officially called Bob!), and realised that nearly all of what it said was simply not true, it has made such a difference to my life.

Now when I hear this voice, I can laugh and say “Shut up Bob” (I say this in my head so people don’t worry that I have gone mad!’) and when I think fearful thoughts I recognize that they aren’t true.

The thing is that our brain is trying to keep us safe. It is wired to avoid change which it perceives as a threat and therefore it creates a stress response that stops us taking risks. Once our body is in the stress response we will then think fearful thoughts and ultimately we will avoid moving forward, We will stay in the safe and known.

But what if you learn to listen to the positive voice more? What if you can learn to laugh at the silliness of the negative voice and say “Thanks for trying to do your best to keep me safe Bob but I’ll take it from here. You are not needed any more'“ Eventually the negative voice, the bad wolf, will quieten down.

And what if then, you didn’t have this negative voice stopping you? What would you achieve? What would you do with your life? What new adventures might you have? Would you start a new career? Would you ask that person out on a date?

You are so powerful. You can do and be anything you want. I want you to realise that.

So a simple way to focus on the positive voice and become aware of the negative voice is to give it a name and just start to become aware, to notice.

There are other things you can do to start to rewire your mind such as affirmations, visualisations , meditation, practicing presence and gratitude.

If you want my help in working towards your goals, I would love to support you. I offer a free discovery call. Book here.

Now, I’m listening to the happy cheerful voice telling me to  “Go have fun with the children!” so bye for now, enjoy the heat!

With much love,

Rebecca xx